Any parent will tell you -- raising kids is scary. And it doesn’t get any easier once they start driving.
Teens make mistakes, unfortunately, mistakes made on the road (something teen drivers are prone to do) can lead to accidents involving severe injury or worse, for themselves and others. But, your teen’s level of experience behind the wheel isn’t the only cause for concern. In 2016, the AAA Foundation for Traffic Safety found that 60% of teen related crashes are due to some form of distraction while driving.
Those distractions include:
● Passenger related distractions
● Operating a cell phone while driving
● Looking at something inside of the car
Scared yet? That’s a good thing. Being aware of the potential dangers your teen may face on the road is the best way to prevent them. To help you keep your kids safe, we’ve outlined a gameplan to teach kids to avoid distracted driving. From the early years, before your child can drive, through the early driving stages and what to do if if you feel your child has picked up some dangerous habits -- it’s all covered below.
Here’s a timeline of what to do at each stage:
Stage 1: Before your kid starts driving.
The best way to teach teens safe practices behind the wheel is to follow the rules yourself. Set the bar high, but also be aware that you will lower it just slightly every time you do something you shouldn’t behind the wheel. It’s okay to point out your own mistakes as well – in fact, you should! Doing so will reinforce the importance of safe driving with your teen. There’s a lesson to be learned from making small mistakes on the road. Things like changing the radio station while you’re driving are a part of human nature, but make sure if you do this, that you point it out and correct yourself to teach your child the dangers of distracted driving.
Set a good example for your teen by never:
● Texting and driving – Or, operating your phone for any reason once the car is in motion. This is easier said than done, but these days most cars come equipped with Bluetooth technology for streaming music, voice activated dialing, and some can even read texts for you. Use your best judgement when deciding what can wait until you arrive at your destination. And really, it can all wait. Especially when your teen is watching.
● Playing with your in-car tech – Distractions come standard in our vehicles. There are buttons that control the music, others control the temperature and the list goes on and on. Be sure to make any adjustments to your car’s technology settings before getting on the road. Make sure that if your passenger is of legal age to ride up front, you ask them to control the music or any other tech while you drive.
● Eating while you drive – Fast food places are everywhere; drive-thrus make it easy to get what you want and get back on the road when you’re in a hurry. But, remember that eating and driving can make it difficult to focus on the road. Stopping for a few minutes in the parking lot of a fast food restaurant is a better option than risking your safety for a quick bite.
Setting some ground rules.
Set realistic expectations to govern the rules of the road. Avoid being unreasonably strict to prevent teens from rebelling against them OR being too afraid or upset to drive in the first place! When you discuss driving with your teen, instead of threatening to punish them if they do something wrong, set rules that reward good behavior while on the road.
For example:
● Create an agreement. Some parents will offer a contract that clearly states the rules their teen is required abide by to ensure there is no confusion. Make sure that your contract works both ways; include rules for yourself as well as rules for your teen.
● Set goals and offer rewards. A great way to promote safe driving is to come up with attainable goals for your teen. If they can go without any traffic tickets and promise to drive safely on a regular basis, you can reward them with a bonus to their allowance, a movie night with friends, or offer to pay for gas.
Stage 2: During the early driving years.
It’s time – You’ve prepped for this moment and now it’s here. Your kid is ready to get behind the wheel and you’re hopeful the lessons you’ve instilled in them will stick. You’re probably feeling some initial anxiety and are beginning. However, try to remember that you’ve done all you can to prepare.
Prepare yourself for either of the following:
Best-case scenario– Your teen is an exemplary driver and respects the rules of the road. However, not all teen driving accidents are their own fault. Other drivers may not be as keen to the potential dangers of distracted driving, or may have a blatant disregard for them. Once you’ve taught your teen basic safety and driving rules, teach them to remain cautious of other drivers at all times.
Worst-case scenario– Your teen is prone to driving distractions. This is common among teen drivers, and though it is a cause for concern, it doesn’t have to be a deal breaker for your child and the road.
Enter stage three – the distracted teen driver.
Stage 3: After your teen breaks the rules.
Traffic violations, fender benders, and close-calls can shake your confidence in your teenage driver (as well as the confidence of your teen!). While it’s easy to overreact in a situation where your child’s safety is at risk, be patient and go back to educating your child on safe driving habits.
Next Steps
Take a corrective course of action. Teach your teen to take responsibility for his or her mistakes, remembering to reiterate the dangers of distractions on the road. While some parents will result to extreme measures such as, revoking driving privileges or grounding for long periods of time, creative discipline can be an encouraging way to teach right from wrong.
These tips can prove effective for disciplining a distracted teen driver:
· Mandatory community service to reinstate driving privileges
· Limit driving to fewer hours with increased stipulations
Your teen driver will require continued reinforcement of driving guidelines to prevent distraction. Remember to lead by example whenever you are driving with your teen.
If you find that your methods are ineffective in preventing distractions, intervention through alternative disciplinary methods will be required. In severe cases where a teen has been involved in repeated instances of distracted driving, consider monitoring behaviors using GPS in-car technology.